Learning to Love Again Part 9 “How to Love Ourselves”

In the Name of Allah (God), The Evolver, Who nourishes His Creation stage after stage until It reaches its eventual Perfection

Learning to Love again pt 9
How to Love Ourselves

As-salaam-alaikum,

We all love ourselves right? Of Course! But this epic journey of love has bruised us, battered our self-esteem, and self-worth and forced us to ask the soul trenching question as to, “Why me”? “Why did I have to go through what I went through”? There is no generic answer or cliché saying that could possibly speak to the unique imprint of pain that each individual must go through to find ourselves, discover the undeniable truth of our own perseverance that must be unlocked from the treasure of an emotionally dramatic experience.

We would have to stop talking, complaining about circumstances, stop imitating our perception of life and listen to our heart in the quietness of mind in the stillness of tranquility, set in a oasis of peace. When our world hums with the rhythm of our solitude, vibrating affirmative thoughts, we come face to face with what all of us is tried with, the reflection of ourselves through the window of our past.

Accepting our memories, the first time we fell in love, the first time we gave our heart must be contemplated, enjoyed upon, and let go with the promise of the present and faith of tomorrow’s gift of the unknown. First we have to believe in possibility of Love and become a daily witness of its power to rebirth, rejuvenate, and transform our lives. Secondly we must absolve our feelings of guilt, and betrayal or become prisoners of rage, sorrow, and vindictiveness doubting and sabotaging any opportunities we have of happiness. Finally we must become students of the only real Love in the Universe which is Divine Love from the Source from which it springs.

The ninth phase of us learning to love again takes us into the circle of the depth of our spiritual journey where we climax with happiness and wallow in grief in faster intervals than ever before. We have open the door to accept our divinity, let go (at least striving our best to) of our past, and have sought true Validation from the Only Reality, God (Himself).We also have unfortunately sought relief with our emotional substitutes, our instant gratifiers, and maybe even experimented with drugs, alcohol, and casual sex to sedate our mind into believing that we are happy neglecting our spiritual obligations to ourselves.

Learning to love ourselves again is now predicated on our knowledge and experience of witnessing ourselves in our most euphoric moments and our weakest points. The mystery is finished and the trumpet of self-discovery is blown once we know what we are capable of doing under any circumstance. When we discover our limits of what we are capable of doing under any amount of influence or distress we can translate our self-awareness into Self-love. As we go through trials our character reveals itself to us and our Savior Allah (God) becomes intrinsic and vital to us as Our Best Guide and Companion to overcome the tremendous emotional burdens we face. The more we submit our will to Love again the closer we are drawn to the Source of all Love, God Himself, which attracts others who are also revolving in the Circle of Light, Life, and Power. Our Peace comes from that Self-awareness and Our Love for other human beings becomes infinite individual expressions reflecting our Universal Divine Love for God Himself.

Learning to Love again involves loving from a higher perspective that removes the vanity of selfishness from its root. It is as valuable and in infinite abundance as the air we breathe, it cannot be hoarded, saved, or excluded for any particular group or time. It is based on the Universal righteous Principles of God Himself and can be shared, enjoyed, and encountered by any who chose to act upon them. Learning to Love ourselves discovers how we can become a better asset to our Creator, family, friends, community, and love ones. It turns our, “Why me?” into “Why not me?” so now our experiences become fertilizer to replant the seeds of love in our heart so our Divine Purpose may be realized.

When our prays and devotional praise take on a greater meaning than performing religious rites and our habits and behavior become much more than mundane expressions of our existence then we are finding purpose for every second of our lives to show our love to Him and ourselves. Our devotional service no longer becomes a token towards our spiritual advancement but learning to love again becomes a prerequisite for spiritual growth and happiness once the seal is broken and the heart is free to love with knowledge of experience. To neglect this spiritual reality is to allow ourselves to succumb to bitterness and perpetual grief.

We start loving ourselves with a Positive Thought that Validates our Intentions with a verbal and physical affirmation. That means getting down and prostrating ourselves to pray first. Pay attention to your Spirit and Ask (Allah) God to show you how to Love yourself and free your heart of the rancor of pain and disappointment. Next exercise to show yourself and God that you are grateful for the vessel He has blessed you with and you plan to start taking care of it indicative of your new found self-love. Feed our Mind and body with the right spiritual and physical food that will reaffirm the Original thought that we Love our God and Ourselves as One. Learning to Love ourselves is the most vital process in our journey to Love again. Our degree of expression reflects our readiness to attract a mate into our lives.

All of Our Thoughts creates atmospheres which produce circumstances like forms of weather that reflect our attractive power. So we will attract inevitably the dominant thoughts we express. So even if we don’t know how to love ourselves truly, we can try and we will gradually find more and more things we can do to enhance our mood, finances, and love life because ultimately love is the creative force that Allah (God) uses to bring his Will into existence. One of the greatest fulfillments is when two people can love each other while completely being themselves.

So let’s work on accepting our own and being ourselves so others can love the intelligent, healthy, ambitious, compassionate, successful people we are.
(Since the last time I wrote pt 8 “Self-Validation” I have been on an emotional journey searching for my own personal happiness fighting through the affliction of life’s disappointments. I could not write to you until personally I experience the tremendous benefits of learning to love myself through the discovery some of my greatest strengths and weaknesses).

I thank you all for reading and having the emotional courage to embark on this journey to learn to love again with me.

Your brother Jameel Muhammad
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